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the music plays but the screen is just grey
Is this something that started in recent builds? If not, sounds like you might need to update your GPU drivers.
Turn off Enable Hardware Shader in Emulation - Configure - Graphics.
The window is too big to see the OK or Cancel options. Try shrinking it down.
since the window is off the screen, my mouse cant go outside of the screen so i dont know how to resize it
Try double clicking on the top bar that says “Citra Configuration”?